If you’ve ever wondered what actually guides my work - how I scan, how I know what to clear, how solutions or remedies show up for each person - this is it.

It’s not random intuition or mental dowsing but my Higher Self connecting to your Higher Self.

When I first started doing this work, I didn’t even know how to explain it. Back in 2018, I wrote a blog post calling it “the higher mind” because at that time, that was the best way I could describe it. It felt like a wiser mind inside me.

Over the years, through hundreds of clearing works, I realised this “higher mind” was a direct line to my Higher Self. (If you’re new to my world, clearing work refers to removing blocked energies for the purpose of healing).

And when I learned how to stay connected to it consistently, my clearing work changed completely. It became faster, clearer, and way more accurate - not because I became “special.” But because I stopped relying only on my physical senses or logical brain.

I will explain to you what the Higher Self is and how you can use it (and why you should) to make your life better in any area (career, finance, health, or even relationships).

The Bird in the Sky: What really is the Higher Self?

I found that the best description of Higher Self is the one written by Drunvalo Melchizedek, using a metaphor of a bird.

Your Higher Self is not your soul. Your soul is the evolving, eternal part of you that carries your journey across lifetimes. But your Higher Self is the wise, fully conscious you that never forgot who you are. This is where the bird metaphor comes in handy.

Imagine yourself hiking in a long, jungle track. High above you is a bird assigned to protect you. Because you are stuck on the ground, all you can see is what the limits of your physical eyes can see. But the bird above you can (fore)see everything that is ahead of you. It can also still see what you have passed or left behind that you may not have noticed or that you will soon forget.

Can you see where this is going?

Your Higher Self is exactly that. It can tell you what’s ahead, or what was in the past that may have caused your current trouble and that which may need you to take some actions to correct or amend them so that you can move forward in life swiftly.

It can also tell you which road to take to avoid danger, or which road to take to meet your destination faster, or even tell you if your decision or desire is detrimental to you. Simply because it has a super wider view of your life. Not just ahead and behind, forward and backward, but also your inner and outer world including the “worlds” in your physical body.

So your Higher Self is essentially you in a higher dimension, except that it doesn’t cry over bubble tea. Meaning, it doesn’t carry your emotional traumas or past life issues.

The Difference Between:

Your Soul vs Your Higher Self

Your soul is the part of you that has been through past lives, old contracts, karmic dramas, exes from three lifetimes ago - you name it. Your soul has carried it. It’s wiser, yes, but it’s still learning, still healing and still evolving.

It knows your essence, yes. But it also sometimes picks up baggage along the way. Like going overseas and coming back with an accent you didn’t actually need.

Your Higher Self, on the other hand, doesn’t need to struggle, learn, or heal like your soul does. Because it didn’t come down to play the human game. Instead, it stayed up there watching calmly from the balcony while your soul was running through emotional obstacle courses down here. This doesn’t mean it’s cold-blooded.

Think of it like your personal coach - the one who already sees the whole track and cheers, "Don’t worry, I got you. Just keep moving."

So, your soul holds your story. But your Higher Self holds your clarity. Is this clear? Ok good.

For the Left-Brained Thinkers:

If you’re someone who needs more than just feelings to believe this, good. You should. Spirituality without grounded thinking is how people end up getting messed up energetically, opening themselves up to things they didn’t even sign up for.

Ok let’s bring it down clearly.

If you research Carl Jung (one of the founding fathers of modern psychology), you would find that he had spent his life studying how the conscious and unconscious minds interact. He talked about something called the Self (capital S).

The Self is not just your ego (the personality you show the world), and it’s not just your unconscious shadow (the parts you hide or suppress). It is your original, whole self - before life experiences and survival patterns started layering on top.

In his view, the Self existed before the ego was even formed. It is the compass inside every human being that quietly pulls you toward becoming whole again, beyond all your roles, wounds, and personal histories.

So, if we are looking at it from this psychological lens: the Self is a real state of consciousness that connects you to your Higher Self.

Neuroscience is hinting at this too:

When the Default Mode Network (the brain network involved in ego-self thinking) quiets down during deep meditation, people report experiences of clarity, unity, and peace. Yay. You see? This is not fantasy. These are states that match ancient descriptions of “Higher Self” connection.


It’s a remembered state of consciousness that has been mapped across psychology, neuroscience, and ancient wisdom.

There is no need to blindly believe. You just have to stay open to the idea that your mind was never meant to be the only compass you use.

Your Higher Self is NOT Your Spirit Guide

Let me clear this up right now:

Your Higher Self is not your auntie in spirit form giving you unsolicited advice. It’s not your spirit guide.

This is an important one to get clear because if you mix them up, you might start following advice that isn’t meant for you.

Your Higher Self is you. The clearest, most conscious, most Divine version of you. It holds your blueprint and remembers your path. It will never impose, rush or override your free will. It knows when to guide, and when to wait.

A Spirit Guide is not you. It is a separate being. It could be an ancestor, a soul from another realm, a being of light, or just a helpful energetic presence assigned to assist you this lifetime. They can support or protect, but they don’t decide for you.

Before you trust any Spirit Guide, you must first be connected to your Higher Self. Because that’s your filter and compass.

Always listen up before you listen out.

Listen to your Higher Self (up) before you listen to anything external - spirit beings, pendulums, tarot cards, even well-meaning friends (out). Because otherwise, you’ll end up following things that sound spiritual but don’t actually help you.

The Lower Self and Higher Self

According to Drunvalo Melchizedek, you are also connected to the Lower Self and this part always gets misunderstood.

This Lower Self is not your ego self. And it’s definitely not your wounded inner child.

Your Lower Self is the part of you that’s connected to Earth. It’s your pure, original inner child, the one that came into this world before fear, before shame, before any programming.

This is the part that feels through the body, and that receives guidance through gut instincts, dowsing, or inner knowing.

So:

  • Your Higher Self gives you guidance from above.
  • Your Lower Self keeps you grounded below.
  • Your Soul walks the journey in between.

Quick but important pitstop: Discernment matters more than ever.

Just because you hear a voice or receive a message while meditating doesn’t mean it came from your Higher Self. We’re in a time where people are opening themselves up energetically but without clear filters, and that’s when it gets messy.

Throughout my work in researching, studying, and practicing energy clearing for raising consciousness, I’ve seen people develop symptoms of mental illness (even psychosis symptoms) due to information overload. This often happens when someone seeks spiritual enlightenment without going through a proper grounding and deep clearing process first.

Some beings look like light, and sound like truth. But they come wrapped in ego, superiority or fear. And if you’re not grounded, you won’t know the difference.

So how do you tell?

If the message, insight, or guidance makes you feel any of the following, or if your initial question was motivated by:

  • Anger
  • Pride
  • Fear
  • Jealousy
  • Neediness
  • Obsession
  • Anxiety
  • Shame
  • Defensiveness
  • Like you’re better than others
  • Or like you need to rush into something because you’re “not enough”...

Then that message did not come from your Higher Self.

Your true inner guidance does not manipulate you, feed your ego, or fill you with guilt, fear and shame. It won’t come wrapped in urgency or panic.

The guidance might challenge you, yes. But it always leaves you feeling clearer, calmer and more connected to truth, not more reactive or exhausted.

So always ask yourself: How did that message make me feel? Did it anchor me, or spin me or feed my ego?

If it feels like peace (even when you feel resistance in your mind), that’s alignment. If it sends you into anxiety, comparison, or judgment, that’s noise. Or worse, manipulation in spiritual costume.

How to recognise your Higher Self?

Before you can even recognise it, you have to first know where the point of connection is. Let me share one simple way to “locate” your connection to your Higher Self:

If you can recall a moment in the past when you spiralled, you know, that moment when a small feeling turned into full-blown anxiety, anger, or drama - try to replay that moment at -4.0 speed. Zoom into that split second just before the emotional spiral began. Right there, you were actually at a crossroads.

One path leads to spiralling. The other is the path of stillness. You couldn’t control it at the time. That’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up.

But know this: you have that part within you that is just observing. This is the part of you that is connected to your Higher Self. And it’s possible to recognise it in that instance if you learn how to pause and see.

Practices like stillness, breathwork, observation of your thoughts without attachment help you return to that inner space.

Breathe. Stretch. Drink water.
Your brain just downloaded more wisdom in one sitting than most people do in a year.


Okay, today was the heavy theory day.

You now know the difference between your Soul, your Higher Self, your Spirit Guides and random voices that sound smart but are actually emotional parasites.

But knowing is only 10%. The other 90% is getting your own signal clean and strong again.

In the next letter, I’ll show you how to actually start connecting back through small practices that even busy, overthinking humans can do. :-)

See you in Part 2.

With love,
Shaya Ang

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