You should change your past.

Why?

Quick answers:

  • If you have an awful past, this thought or memory will wreck your health in the long run, especially when you use it to justify why you are who you are today or how you behave in a certain way.
  • If you have a glorious and prideful past, it can still wreck your health in different ways.

Let me elaborate:

1. Painful Past

Painful memories carry their own weight, a kind of gravity that never lets you feel fully free.

If your mind clings to painful memories, it means you are locked in a cycle where the past keeps repeating.

You relive it each time you feel reminded of it, consciously or subconsciously. And as you already know, your body responds to this cycle as if the pain is happening again and again in the present.

This means every single time you replay that memory, it’s like pressing on a bruise, sending a flood of stress hormones through your system. This kind of repeated stress has real physical impacts:

  • heightened blood pressure
  • weaker immune function
  • chronic tension

The mind stores hurt, but the body feels it. Every single time. And holding on to this cycle without breaking free is, effectively, choosing to stay locked in yesterday.

Each time you replay that old story, you are telling your body and mind that this is who you are. And the more you tell yourself this, the more that story becomes the only “you” you know.

I know at least one person who has spent over two decades trapped in self-pity and resentment. She continues to tell herself that another person is the reason she couldn’t pursue her dreams and ambitions. As you might guess, the result has been constant illness and ongoing depression.

If only they knew what could change by rewiring their mind to release that miserable past.

Another thing about a painful past is that while it’s stored in memory and the emotional body, it is not necessarily in your everyday thoughts.

For some people, childhood traumas are "forgotten." The truth is, “forgotten trauma” is still present in the form of energy, but the mind numbs it as a trauma response, a form of self-protection.

This hidden trauma may resurface when triggered later in life, or it may be passed down to the next generation if it’s not resolved. 

I came to understand this deeply through a session with one of my clients. At the end of a clearing session, some remedies surfaced to support her healing at a physical level, along with guidance to change a past memory.

At first, she couldn’t recall any specific memories. Only after I cleared some blocked energies did a memory resurface, which was a moment of childhood guilt when she had physically hurt a friend.

We then began the work by allowing her to express her thoughts and feelings about it. Some clients heal best through expressing themselves in words, which prevents feelings from getting repressed during the next steps.

The next step was to clear the guilt energy (emotions are energy in motion, and real psychics are able to sense these energies). This process was heartfelt, and she broke down during the clearing.

Once her energy was calm, I guided her to rewrite that past memory and change the information at a DNA level.

How do we know if that past emotional trauma has truly healed?

For me, I sense and test for the energy, confirming that it no longer lingers in the body or mind.

With clients, I approach it a little differently: after the session, I guide them through recalling the experience, checking if any emotions or stress surface.

Sometimes I'll reach out again after a few days, months, or even years, to see if the past event brings up anything new. And the answer, again and again, is no.

The old story remains in memory, but now it stands alongside a new understanding. When they remember the painful event, they feel a gentle indifference.

It’s a peaceful feeling that shows the memory no longer has the power to stir their emotions or disturb their mind.

2. A Glorious or Prideful Past

This might surprise you. We think of pride as a positive, as something that builds self-worth, right?

But pride in the past, especially if it’s the source of your identity, can trap you just as painfully as an awful memory.

Why?

Because when you define yourself by your “best days,” you create a fragile identity, a glass box. You are hanging your self-worth on a memory that you can’t relive.

It’s like constantly looking in the rearview mirror, wondering if you will ever be “that good” again. This creates a perpetual anxiety about the present, a lingering fear that nothing today will ever live up to that old image.

It’s an invisible pressure, one that can make your current self feel small, unsatisfying, and incomplete. Living like this makes it nearly impossible to just exist in the present with a sense of peace.

Imagine trying to fully enjoy today when you are always mentally pulled to a version of yourself that is behind you.

Another side of this is that clinging to a past identity, one you are proud of, may cause stagnation and block growth.

Growth is a constant process, and if you feel stuck, it doesn’t mean you’re not growing; it means you’re regressing.

Many people think they are great because of past titles, achievements, or status. They forget that the past no longer exists, and who they are today is defined by the energy they bring now, built by their recent thoughts and emotional states.

If you don’t detach from your history (your resume, your pride moments, your awards, your grades, your degrees, your social statuses, your achievements), you will not grow. You will just keep reliving the same story, over and over.

The best way to detach is by rewriting the story

Let’s cut to the heart of it: How exactly do you change your past? Is that even possible?

We are not talking about hopping in a time machine.

This is about changing the way your mind relates to those memories, how you experience and perceive them, starting right now.

And yes, it’s absolutely possible. It’s backed by neuroscience, psychology, and the transformations of people who have freed themselves from memory’s hold.

In energy clearing, memories are simply energy. When we rewrite the story of the past, we shift that energy.

In my sessions, I don’t just clear the emotional waves; I reach the root, clearing out disempowering thoughts and memories at their source.

But you don’t need special training, energy clearing techniques, or stacks of research to do this for yourself. I’ll sum it up for you here, so you can start right now:

Step 1: Acknowledge that memory is a creative process

Most people believe that memories are just records of what actually happened. They’re not.

Memory is much closer to a story than a recording. Every time you remember something, your brain edits and reinterprets, making small, subtle changes that align more with who you are now than who you were then.

This means the past you remember is not even set in stone. It’s more like wet clay, and your current state of mind shapes that clay every time you think back to it.

So, to change your past, start by understanding that every memory is a subjective, flexible narrative. It’s not solid. It’s sculpted by perception.

Step 2: Identify and release old labels

In our minds, we tend to label our experiences: “good,” “bad,” “my failure,” “my success.” These labels trap us by setting specific memories as fixed parts of our identity.

But if you look at your memories with fresh eyes (without the labels), you will find that they begin to lose their tight grip on who you think you are.

Think of it this way: if you drop the label of “failure,” suddenly the memory is no longer the defining mark on your identity. The memory becomes just an experience, one that shaped you then, but does not define you now.

So, try to revisit a memory without the old label and see what the new perspective reveals itself.

Step 3: Challenge the story you have built around the memory

Every painful or prideful memory comes with a story we have built around it. This story usually includes elements of blame, self-criticism, or praise.

To reshape the past, start questioning the story. Ask yourself: What am I gaining by keeping this story? What do I believe it protects me from, or how does it serve me?

Be brutally honest with yourself. You may find that the story has actually been a defense mechanism or a way to keep yourself from feeling exposed or vulnerable. But by questioning it, you will start to free yourself from the limits it imposes on your present.

Step 4: Reframe the memory to align with growth

Every experience can be reinterpreted. It’s not about pretending something didn’t hurt or wasn’t impactful. Rather, it’s about reinterpreting its meaning.

For example, instead of seeing failure as a mark of inadequacy, see it as a lesson that toughened you, that refined your character.

Start seeing each experience as a stepping stone rather than a weight. This reframe isn’t about tricking yourself but about finding a perspective that allows you to heal and grow rather than remain stuck.

You can try to rewrite the past to reframe it as if they were all stepping stones to achieve greatness in the future. You can also continue writing until it goes past the present moment and into the future. 

Yes, writing your future life story is another powerful way to create a reality you wish to live. But this is a topic for another time.

For now, just rewrite all past memories to turn them into growth-focused memories. Whether they are good or bad memories, rewrite them so that each of them has a growth twist at the end so that they serve as fuel to inspire, motivate, and give you strength.

Step 5: Integrate this new perspective into the present

The final step is to bring that reframed past into your present identity.

Who are you now that you’re no longer tied to that old story?

How do you move differently, make decisions differently, now that you are not constantly under the influence of those memories?

Let the new perspective show up in how you treat yourself, in your confidence, and in your willingness to pursue things that once scared you.

Changing your past means actively living as though those old memories have transformed because they have been rewritten.

If you are intrigued by this process and want to go deeper, this interesting article delves into how the past is not as fixed as we think and provides compelling reasons for changing your perception of it:

4 Powerful Reasons To Change The Past, With A Short Guide

Or, if you are curious about a physics-based perspective on changing the past, this article explores how quantum mechanics suggests that observing something can alter its past state:

Using Quantum Mechanics to Edit the Past

I will close with these three insights to keep in mind:

1. Your past is not set in stone


It never was. The past is only as rigid as you allow it to be. Memories don’t have to define you, they are simply chapters, not your entire story.

2. Don’t let memories dictate who you are


Good or bad, memories are past experiences. When you stop letting them control your identity, you free yourself to step into who you are truly meant to become.

3. Your growth is limitless when you control the narrative


By taking charge of the stories you tell yourself, you unlock limitless potential for growth and transformation.

Is there a past memory you would like to erase or rewrite?

How would you go about it?

Hit reply and share your thoughts. I would love to hear your story. :)


Until my next letter,

Shaya Ang