Sometimes, you just feel off. You’re not sick or in a major crisis but something’s just not right.

You might snap at someone for no reason, overthink a text that didn’t need a reply, or get irritated at the sound of someone breathing too loudly near you. You tell yourself to get a grip but the tension doesn’t leave.


Then you start to wonder, “Is this my trauma again?” And then you found yourself typing out a message to me:


“Shaya, can you do a quick test on my energy? I’m feeling down again and I don’t know why. Has the trauma really been cleared or is this something new showing up?”


Or you start thinking about booking another session: therapy, chakra cleansing, maybe even a full-on healing retreat. 


Or maybe you just stay curled up on your couch, scrolling through your thoughts, wondering if this is your hormones, mid-life catching up, or some dark energy clinging onto your field.


Sounds familiar?


Here’s what you need to know:

Not everything needs to be unpacked to death.


Sometimes, your body is just tired. Or hungry. Or carrying a hundred little things that have quietly built up because you haven’t had the time or space to clear them.


That’s why I created this one-minute emotional reset.

It’s something I wish someone had handed me years ago, before I went down the rabbit hole of overanalysing every single feeling.


This is not deep shadow work.

It’s just basic, human maintenance for your emotional body.

Your One-minute Emotional Reset - 8 Quick Questions to Answer

When you feel yourself spiralling or snapping, take one minute to check in with these:


1. Is your period around the corner?

It’s easy to forget. Hormones don’t knock and say hi, they just arrive. One moment you’re fine, next moment you’re crying over a fried egg that broke in the pan. 
Don’t beat yourself up. Just check your cycle first.



2. Are you hungry?

Low blood sugar is not a joke. It can make you feel anxious, impatient, even depressed. Before you blame your childhood, have a banana.

It’s not always emotional, sometimes it’s just lunch time.



3. Did you sleep enough?

This one’s sneaky. When you’re sleep-deprived, everything feels worse than it is. You might think your life is falling apart when what you really need is a two-hour nap and a hug.

Check in. You’re not lazy or oversensitive. Probably just tired.


4. Have you had water today?

I’m not talking about a sip of coffee or bubble tea. Real water!

Dehydration slows everything down: your mood, your mind, your energy. Drink a glass slowly. You might feel better in five minutes.


5. Are you breathing?

Yes, I know. You’re alive, so obviously you’re breathing. But stress makes us breathe shallowly without noticing. That’s why you feel like your chest is tight.

Take one deep, full breath. Then another. Let your shoulders drop.

6. Where can you release this?

You don’t need to be strong all the time. But you also don’t need to dump your emotions on the wrong person.

Can you write it out? Cry? Move your body? If these don’t work, talk to someone who really gets it, not the one who replies “just don’t think too much.”



7. Should you put your phone down?

If you're about to argue, explain yourself, or stalk someone’s Instagram to hurt your own feelings... please, pause.

A lot of emotional damage happens through tiny screens. Close the app. Silence the notifications.

No one heals well mid-text-fight.


8. What’s actually causing this?

Sit with the feeling, not the story.

Sometimes, the real reason is buried under five layers of irritation, and it takes a bit of stillness to hear it.

You don’t have to figure it all out right now. Just be willing to listen.

I remember doing this once, after something small someone said left me feeling unusually irritable. I paused, took a few minutes and let myself sit with the discomfort. Not thinking about it, just feeling it.

Eventually, a memory came up. A quiet one I hadn’t thought about in years. It was a moment of betrayal from my past and as soon as it surfaced, I felt a shift. The irritation turned into sadness gently released through tears.

It’s that soft release your body gives you when something deep has been held in for too long.

Usually, this is the “inner child” asking to be seen.

One pause could save you from spiraling, from projecting and probably save you from booking a whole shamanic healing session just to retrieve one part of you (the lost souls) that never left and just needed to be acknowledged.

That’s your reset tool. It’s simple, but powerful.


Most people skip it because they assume they already “know” these things. But knowing is not the same as remembering, especially when you’re overwhelmed.

When you give yourself one minute to pause, slow down, check in, and tend to your body first, you create the space for your emotions to breathe.


You start noticing:

That not every feeling needs fixing.

That not every emotional spike is a sign of deep trauma.

That sometimes, the best thing you can do for your healing is have a glass of water, a good cry, and switch off your phone.


I’m not saying this reset will solve every issue. Sometimes, you’ll still feel stuck even after doing all eight steps. And that’s okay.

That’s usually when something deeper is asking to be cleared. Something old. Something inherited or something stuck in the body that has been waiting for years to be felt properly, so it can finally leave.


That’s when you reach for help because that’s when we can clear the energy for real.

But until then, this reset gives you a way to pause the spiral. It’s simply your way of saying to yourself, “I’m still here. I’ve got me.”


Try it today. Tomorrow. Any time you feel off but don’t know why.


You might be surprised how often you don’t need a breakthrough… You just need to remember to drink water, breathe, and stop arguing with people in your head.



With love,
Shaya

emohealing.com

Disclaimer:

The self-healing methods shared in this letter are intended to support your emotional and energetic well-being. They are not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Results may vary, and it is important to consult a licensed healthcare or mental health professional if you are experiencing severe symptoms or distress.